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“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

This is the time of year when all you hear about is the new goals people have for the upcoming year. I get pretty annoyed with all that sometimes. I’m not a New Year’s resolution type of person. But I do believe in the value of reflection. That’s why i seem to beat it to death here.

It’s mostly because I don’t think you can really be successful in the future without knowing what went well and what didn’t in your past endeavors.

I also firmly believe in resets. You don’t even have to come up with something new. Just ask yourself if you’re happy with how things are now. If the answer is yes, follow it up with are you happy in all aspects of your life. Maybe a reset in one small area will jumpstart the rest of your life and create changes that you didn’t Even know you could use.

Resets often are small. They may require just changing one thing. I’ll give you a reset example – one that has nothing to do with grand goals but it was a perfect example that popped up as soon as I decided to do today’s lesson on resets.

I have two mattresses for my van. One is about 6-8 inches wider than the other. It’s Al’s the more comfortable one. Since this race is going to be 6 days I knew I needed to use the more comfortable mattress so switched them out yesterday

But as I continued to load gear into the van I knew it was too wide. It didn’t take me long before I decided to put the smaller one back in. I wasn’t upset or frustrated as I’ve been in the past. It was just going with what was better.

That acceptance was different for me and I welcomed it even though I was surprised.

As I was looking for something else in the house my eyes landed on my thick yoga mat. This was not a given as it was buried under a bunch of stuff. But there it is was calling to me.

I found my measuring tape and it’s the exact size of the smaller mattress so I ended up putting the yoga mat under the mattress. That should give me more cushioning.

So what happened here? During the whole process I used logical thinking unclouded by emotion. Each step was feelings free. I emphasize that because it’s so out of character for me.

As a result my thinking and therefore my mind was uncluttered and there was space for the universe to hand me a solution. In the past there would have been no space for this new idea to come in. Plus I was able to embrace this as a unique answer. It was no longer black and white – one mattress over the other. New ideas were able to bounce around in my head.

This reset is simply a reflection of the reset that has occurred in my mind over the past 6 months. And you all are responsible for much of that reset. Not only did you help me reset during vol state but all your thoughts and ideas on my messages have opened so many new doors that I’d never seen before. I thank all of you and I hope you will consider a reset.

Let me leave you with two quotes. One is the one I led off with. Here they are

1. “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

And the other ie

“Self-transformation commences with a period of self-questioning… growing personal awareness leads to transformation in how a person lives.” – Idowu Koyenikan

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“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
Charlie Brown

Good ole Charlie Brown for bringing all my experiences of the second half of 2025 into a refocused perspective.

Another great way of saying control the controllables. If you look all around you, you’ll find so many different ways to express the same thing.

I know I probably talk too much about myself and what happens a to me and i mentioned most of these last week or maybe this Week but this discussion is a more nuanced perspective. I hope that’s
ok.

So what did I have to let go of?

For starters I had hoped I would do great (for me) at vol state. Well as you all know, that didn’t happen. But I learned to accept help that was offered. I wasn’t at the point yet, where i could ask for it but I was able to accept it from several sources. Dr Gilbert, all of you and my guardian angel by proxy- a man named Ray k.

As a result of letting go of those expectations I discovered more about myself than ever via my parts and IFS and writing my book

I thought “ok that’s a fine little bump. Now let’s get back to normal.”

Ha ha. Letting go of the expectation that I could finally finish this nemesis- the 112 mile race over Labor Day. Bang. There went my clavicle.

But instead of trying to prove how strong I was I finally did ask for help and was honored by my friend sacrificing 3 days to rescue me.

Then I had to put all other expectations on hold – doing more podcasts and most of all finishing up my book

Living in the present I took Ramona’s advice and used a speech to text app to get out some thoughts for my book. And I learned a lot about patience and learning something new. I also learned more about the value of gratitude because I knew there are many people out there that would give anything to “just” have a fractured clavicle.

This was followed by a medical procedure that kept me from eating for 2 1/2 weeks. That really went against all expectations. But it also reset some of my food and appetite centers in a way I don’t understand yet.

That should have been it for the not living up to expectations but no. I was planning to use the upcoming race as good kick off training for 2026 vol state. Then I was out of commission for 7-8 days. There went that expectation. So living in the present on that is the fact I will go to have fun and evaluate what my body can do. And use that as kick off training. It’s just a different form but it will be excellent.

I am proud that I’ve been able to respond to each of these things and not react. I’m also happy that I had these experiences and could learn from them and realize that things always do pass if we can sit back and wait for that to happen.

What have you learned from 2025?

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Lisa cooper Ellison
“Darkness invites us to slow down, turn inward, and reflect on what’s gone well while we prepare the seeds for what we’d like to grow in the coming year.”

Although I know nothing about numerology apparently 2025 also marks the close of a nine-year cycle, bringing together themes of completion, letting go, spiritual growth, and transformation.

In your life Some chapters have ended through loss or separation.

We’re intentionally wrapping up others by shedding what’s no longer needed so we can prepare for 2026 when a new chapter begins.

Sunday is the winter solstice
It’s a great time to honor what’s coming to a close.

Why not take small pockets of screen-free, distraction-free time this week.

As you sit, walk, or move in stillness (or boredom), let insights surface without forcing them into being.

Jot down what comes to you.

Reflect on these questions:


• What was life like in 2017? That’s the 9 year phase I talked about earlier. If you don’t want to use 9 years why not pick 2019 – pre pandemic.

• What did you want to accomplish or change?

• How have you grown in those areas?

• What from this chapter of your life has come to completion?

• How has that completion come about?

• What lessons have you learned?

• What achievements do you want to celebrate?

• What feels clearer now?

Once you’ve had time to look back, turn your attention to the present:


• What areas of your life seem to need attention or growth? Creativity? Family? Finances? Physical health? Something else?

• What would you like to begin or accomplish between now and the spring equinox on March 20, 2026? This may or may not be related to any 2025 goals

• Who will you need to be to bring these intentions to life?

• Who will you need to bring on board for this to happen?

• What will you need to do to make that happen?

• How committed are you to this one thing?

• What might possibly interfere with accomplishing this.

You can and should use these types of questions when attempting to measure anything in terms of growth.
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