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Message 347- Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas everyone. This will be a very loose message since most people are doing other things today.

Snoopy said:
“Last year, this day, things were so different.
Next year, this day, things will have again changed.
Where you are today is your latest spot, not the final one. You have no idea how magical the universe is.”

Although today is a day of celebration for many, the important thing is to realize that you are here today no matter where that “here” is.

Enjoy life, enjoy people, enjoy everything. You never know what the next hours or days will bring.

Think back over all your Christmases and see what’s happened in all those years.

This is the very first year that I wish I wasn’t traveling and actually wished I had a place to go. Don’t feel sorry for me because that’s cause for celebration. I don’t know why this has happened although I suspect it is from all the IFS work I’ve done.

I always wanted to avoid Christmas because it was never a very happy holiday. Alcohol will do that to a family. I never felt I belonged on the one day of the year a child should feel totally loved and wanted.

It’s taken me all these years to get to this point and I’m grateful to have gotten to this point. As they say better late than never.

And I just have to tell you about the two unexpected Christmas gifts I got. The universe takes such good care of me.

The first made me as excited as a kid getting her first bike. I plugged my phone in the usb port of my car two days ago and lo and behold CarPlay connected and worked. I have been unable to get it working for the entire year and a half I’ve had the car. But all of a sudden it works. The only thing I can figure is that the other battery case I had might Have obstructed it being read. I switched cases and this is the first time I’ve plugged it in since the switch.

And then I had a box of power bars left over from some race and as I was getting everything ready for my trip I heard something rattling around in the box. Out fell a necklace I’ve been looking for for over 6 months.

What more could a girl ask for?

Have a wonderful day. I’m on the road now and my race starts Sunday morning. I’ll tell you more about it as it gets closer.

Merry diamond Christmas

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Message 344

“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

This is the time of year when all you hear about is the new goals people have for the upcoming year. I get pretty annoyed with all that sometimes. I’m not a New Year’s resolution type of person. But I do believe in the value of reflection. That’s why i seem to beat it to death here.

It’s mostly because I don’t think you can really be successful in the future without knowing what went well and what didn’t in your past endeavors.

I also firmly believe in resets. You don’t even have to come up with something new. Just ask yourself if you’re happy with how things are now. If the answer is yes, follow it up with are you happy in all aspects of your life. Maybe a reset in one small area will jumpstart the rest of your life and create changes that you didn’t Even know you could use.

Resets often are small. They may require just changing one thing. I’ll give you a reset example – one that has nothing to do with grand goals but it was a perfect example that popped up as soon as I decided to do today’s lesson on resets.

I have two mattresses for my van. One is about 6-8 inches wider than the other. It’s Al’s the more comfortable one. Since this race is going to be 6 days I knew I needed to use the more comfortable mattress so switched them out yesterday

But as I continued to load gear into the van I knew it was too wide. It didn’t take me long before I decided to put the smaller one back in. I wasn’t upset or frustrated as I’ve been in the past. It was just going with what was better.

That acceptance was different for me and I welcomed it even though I was surprised.

As I was looking for something else in the house my eyes landed on my thick yoga mat. This was not a given as it was buried under a bunch of stuff. But there it is was calling to me.

I found my measuring tape and it’s the exact size of the smaller mattress so I ended up putting the yoga mat under the mattress. That should give me more cushioning.

So what happened here? During the whole process I used logical thinking unclouded by emotion. Each step was feelings free. I emphasize that because it’s so out of character for me.

As a result my thinking and therefore my mind was uncluttered and there was space for the universe to hand me a solution. In the past there would have been no space for this new idea to come in. Plus I was able to embrace this as a unique answer. It was no longer black and white – one mattress over the other. New ideas were able to bounce around in my head.

This reset is simply a reflection of the reset that has occurred in my mind over the past 6 months. And you all are responsible for much of that reset. Not only did you help me reset during vol state but all your thoughts and ideas on my messages have opened so many new doors that I’d never seen before. I thank all of you and I hope you will consider a reset.

Let me leave you with two quotes. One is the one I led off with. Here they are

1. “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

And the other ie

“Self-transformation commences with a period of self-questioning… growing personal awareness leads to transformation in how a person lives.” – Idowu Koyenikan

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“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
Charlie Brown

Good ole Charlie Brown for bringing all my experiences of the second half of 2025 into a refocused perspective.

Another great way of saying control the controllables. If you look all around you, you’ll find so many different ways to express the same thing.

I know I probably talk too much about myself and what happens a to me and i mentioned most of these last week or maybe this Week but this discussion is a more nuanced perspective. I hope that’s
ok.

So what did I have to let go of?

For starters I had hoped I would do great (for me) at vol state. Well as you all know, that didn’t happen. But I learned to accept help that was offered. I wasn’t at the point yet, where i could ask for it but I was able to accept it from several sources. Dr Gilbert, all of you and my guardian angel by proxy- a man named Ray k.

As a result of letting go of those expectations I discovered more about myself than ever via my parts and IFS and writing my book

I thought “ok that’s a fine little bump. Now let’s get back to normal.”

Ha ha. Letting go of the expectation that I could finally finish this nemesis- the 112 mile race over Labor Day. Bang. There went my clavicle.

But instead of trying to prove how strong I was I finally did ask for help and was honored by my friend sacrificing 3 days to rescue me.

Then I had to put all other expectations on hold – doing more podcasts and most of all finishing up my book

Living in the present I took Ramona’s advice and used a speech to text app to get out some thoughts for my book. And I learned a lot about patience and learning something new. I also learned more about the value of gratitude because I knew there are many people out there that would give anything to “just” have a fractured clavicle.

This was followed by a medical procedure that kept me from eating for 2 1/2 weeks. That really went against all expectations. But it also reset some of my food and appetite centers in a way I don’t understand yet.

That should have been it for the not living up to expectations but no. I was planning to use the upcoming race as good kick off training for 2026 vol state. Then I was out of commission for 7-8 days. There went that expectation. So living in the present on that is the fact I will go to have fun and evaluate what my body can do. And use that as kick off training. It’s just a different form but it will be excellent.

I am proud that I’ve been able to respond to each of these things and not react. I’m also happy that I had these experiences and could learn from them and realize that things always do pass if we can sit back and wait for that to happen.

What have you learned from 2025?