Evaporation phase

Daily Gratitude: “There are times in a life when you are in the evaporation phase: the period between one clear form and the next.”

This is an extremely powerful realization- especially for me at this time.

We look at things in a black or white manner. Things begin. Things end.

How often do we actually examine the “end” and realize (and remind ourselves) that it was simply a transition. Not an end?

Our minds don’t like change because it messes with its predictive capacity and makes the mind work harder to gather new data. Once it’s accumulated enough new data, it can then start making new predictions. But that takes time. It’s why change eventually turns into “the norm”.

It behooves us to talk to and reassure our brains about any change. Calming the nervous system, in my opinion, is our number one job and especially if we want to have a growth mindset. It’s hard to have that without embracing change.

Water takes many forms. It transitions into many forms. The humidity in Tennessee (or anywhere for that matter) is water but we can’t see it. Once its properties change enough though, we can see it because it becomes rain. Most of the time we don’t say “oh this rain is the mist I saw all across the fields yesterday; and then it was the oppressive humidity I felt last night.” We just don’t make the connection.

Look back over your life and see if you can find transition points. Then see the person you were and the circumstances you had both before and after. Ask yourself how all that change turned out.

Are you in a transition point now – are you in an evaporative phase?

Embrace it because there are forces at work for our good even when we resist them. You can mourn a loss, but you can also know that the upcoming transition/change will be good – especially if we let it.

If you’re in the evaporative phase, don’t despair. Your “water” will take a new form soon.

Daily Gratitude: “If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars.”

I think crying is fine. It’s a physical release and so often we don’t allow ourselves enough release.

What this quote is talking about is not staying in the “crying cycle” because the sadness and the mental depression will keep you from seeing joy even when it’s right in front of you. Think what it’s like to drive and a downpour starts. Whereas you could see ahead of you perfectly, all of a sudden there’s only a sheet of water in your face. Your wipers can’t get rid of it fast enough. There may even be streaks of mud splattered all over the windshield too.

The result? You can’t see squat past your own inner environment. If there is constant water and mud coming from somewhere (your tears), you’ll never notice when the sun comes out. You won’t be able to see the beauty all around you. The cycle continues.

Allow yourself to have a pity party when things aren’t going well. That’s expected. It’s normal. But consider putting a time limit on it and get your family and friends to help you stick to it. You can make it as long as you want so you don’t feel picked on. Everyone adapts differently.

You want to see the sun shine again, don’t you?

Daily Gratitude: “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!”

Whenever you have an opportunity to step beyond the norm, beyond your comfort zone, go ahead and do it.

But if you don’t have something you consider to be a “daring adventure”, think again. Often what we get to do every day is our version of a daring adventure because we find joy in what we’re doing.

So don’t let words get in your way. Our daily challenge should be to see how we can have a life adventure every day. What can you do to make that happen? Can you pretend you’re watching a news program and they’re having a special….a special show on your life…. Your life TODAY, not next week or next year. The world wants to see what you’re doing today that brings you happiness and makes you fulfilled.

Every morning when you wake up, Start preparing for the paperazzi because that means your famous and the whole world is watching because they want to be like you and have what you have.

Don’t forget the sunglasses.