Daily Gratitude: Wouldn’t this be a great way to start each day?

When I tell people to have a diamond day, one thing I hope for is that if they meet any adversity or obstacle, they remember that it takes pressure to make a diamond. You can turn whatever “bad” things you meet into your own personal diamond.

That is what’s meant by you can be changed by whatever happens to you. It means you don’t become subdued and overcome by anything that’s going on.

Sure it’s ok to feel “down” for a short period of time while you process things. Set a time limit for that – 5 minutes, 1 day etc. Make sure you honor that time limit and immediately switch gears to figuring out the positive ways this “stuff” can change you for the better.

It’s not easy but if you practice, it will be come a habit and soon the transition will occur automatically.

Be changed not overcome.

Daily Gratitude: I saw this question on a Reddit post when a developer was discussing why he was charging for the app he developed. I thought it was a good question for us to examine.

I believe the answer is “yes”. Value is not necessarily inextricably tied to money. The dictionary says it’s “the worth, importance, or usefulness of something”; “It’s the quality that makes something good, desirable, or significant, from the dollar amount of an item to moral principles like honesty. “

I personally believe that we should all strive to make important things free, good enough and sustainable.

I’m not against making money because we all have to survive but I do think that there’s a certain point where we don’t really need to make any more money. So why not put effort at that point into creating or providing things that are free and are good enough to help people.

Helping others really is in our “genes” as way back when we needed others to keep us all alive.

We are in conditions today that should encourage us to pull together (remember my post on community) and help each other out.

Mankind is at its best when there’s a natural disaster. People come from all over to help anyone in need. No matter their color, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, etc. Doesn’t that sound like it would be nice even without a natural disaster?

What can you offer for free? What has value for you that you can give or offer to others?

What do you value in your life?

Daily Gratitude: I love this. The way it separates these two issues is the best way to think about it.

You have to decide if something that’s going on in your life can be changed. You have to find out what’s really going on, how and why it happened, and whether or not you think you can do something about it. You may have to try various things before you know if it can be changed or not. It’s a process that requires logic and reasoning (and we all know how much I do that- NOT). You can combine some emotion but logic has to prevail.

On the other hand, if you don’t know that there’s a problem or issue, then you can’t do anything about it – you can’t face it.

This is why it’s so important when you’re examining your life and life around you, you must start with yourself. I had a lot of problems with relationships and knew I must have messed them up but I didn’t know how or how to fix it. I was looking outside myself even with the help of therapists. It took IFS and its basic concepts of all things beginning inside of you for me to understand and take action – on myself. At that point things could be changed because I faced them.

It’s a hard reality but it’s essential for growth.