Daily Gratitude

Daily Gratitude: This follows on nicely to the quote about the 16 inches between your brain and your heart.

It’s a wise saying that is worthy of our attention. Often you hear people say they can’t escape from their thoughts, that they feel a prisoner in their heads.

Just as often, though, there are people who are driven by their heart whether you consider that to mean being guided by emotions in general or by love specifically.

I personally think this quote is aimed toward people like myself who don’t ever acknowledge their heart, their emotions. I learned long ago that it wasn’t safe to express them and worse yet, it wasn’t safe to have emotions. Here we see the truth behind mind-body medicine. You cannot escape these emotions (your heart). They will manifest some way, some how. And if you don’t acknowledge them , they will make themselves known in and through your body. 2017 proved that to me. My body expressed all that had been stored up for decades and it wasn’t pretty.

If you’re like me, you have to make a conscious effort to recognize your emotions at least. Then it’s a good idea to learn how to cultivate them. Once the door is open, it becomes easier – just like everything else in life. It’s all about taking step after step. Perhaps that’s why this year’s vol state was even more meaningful. It was just that – taking step after step. And my my more experienced parts tried to escape my heart by numbing me but fortunately there were other parts that stood up and decided to make themselves known. It’s a process and I’m only now, as I write my book, understanding all that happened.

Yet if I’d just ignored the experience, I would have missed so much and just stuffed all those emotions away in the lockbox of my heart.

Listen to your heart. What is it telling you?

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“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
Charlie Brown

Good ole Charlie Brown for bringing all my experiences of the second half of 2025 into a refocused perspective.

Another great way of saying control the controllables. If you look all around you, you’ll find so many different ways to express the same thing.

I know I probably talk too much about myself and what happens a to me and i mentioned most of these last week or maybe this Week but this discussion is a more nuanced perspective. I hope that’s
ok.

So what did I have to let go of?

For starters I had hoped I would do great (for me) at vol state. Well as you all know, that didn’t happen. But I learned to accept help that was offered. I wasn’t at the point yet, where i could ask for it but I was able to accept it from several sources. Dr Gilbert, all of you and my guardian angel by proxy- a man named Ray k.

As a result of letting go of those expectations I discovered more about myself than ever via my parts and IFS and writing my book

I thought “ok that’s a fine little bump. Now let’s get back to normal.”

Ha ha. Letting go of the expectation that I could finally finish this nemesis- the 112 mile race over Labor Day. Bang. There went my clavicle.

But instead of trying to prove how strong I was I finally did ask for help and was honored by my friend sacrificing 3 days to rescue me.

Then I had to put all other expectations on hold – doing more podcasts and most of all finishing up my book

Living in the present I took Ramona’s advice and used a speech to text app to get out some thoughts for my book. And I learned a lot about patience and learning something new. I also learned more about the value of gratitude because I knew there are many people out there that would give anything to “just” have a fractured clavicle.

This was followed by a medical procedure that kept me from eating for 2 1/2 weeks. That really went against all expectations. But it also reset some of my food and appetite centers in a way I don’t understand yet.

That should have been it for the not living up to expectations but no. I was planning to use the upcoming race as good kick off training for 2026 vol state. Then I was out of commission for 7-8 days. There went that expectation. So living in the present on that is the fact I will go to have fun and evaluate what my body can do. And use that as kick off training. It’s just a different form but it will be excellent.

I am proud that I’ve been able to respond to each of these things and not react. I’m also happy that I had these experiences and could learn from them and realize that things always do pass if we can sit back and wait for that to happen.

What have you learned from 2025?

Daily Gratitude

Daily Gratitude: I have so much difficulty making this trip. It’s not only the longest for me but it’s also the hardest.

The strange thing is that there are so many life connections in that 16 inches. Some of us work very hard to put up roadblocks and others work to create effective road blocks. It’s like trying to make it over a mountain pass with avalanches every step of the way.

The brain is all powerful and it seems to rule everything and in many ways it does. But in order to be so mighty, it has to receive oxygen and nutrients. And how does it do that? Via the heart. Perhaps we could spend some time reminding the haughty brain that it would just be a pile of mush if the heart isn’t working right or isn’t doing its job.

It’s like life. We need each other to be the most effective and efficient people. Taking baby steps to allow these two primary organs to communicate and love one another is crucial to healthy living. One way to look at it and help you visualize the connection developing is to think of the spinal cord and all the nerves that come off of it connecting the brain to the rest of the body, including the heart. So there is an open path. I used to sneak up and down the back stairs (did anyone else have back stairs?). That got me from my room to the kitchen and that’s exactly where I wanted to go.

See if you can visualize a young child (or maybe just yourself) scrambling up and down those back stairs (the spinal cord) bringing secret messages from one organ to the other. Make the visualization a game. Once enough secret messages have been delivered, each organ can come out of hiding and greet each other like armies or spies can do when the war is over. And now they understand each other better because they have all the messages n

Work on this a little bit every day and see if you can create a truce, an armistice between your thoughts and your emotions. You’ll be glad you did.