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Daily Gratitude: Sometimes we spend way too much energy and effort trying to correct our weaknesses. I think what’s important is to identify our strengths and weaknesses and then acknowledge what we can’t do so well and forget about it. Move on to working towards improving the things you can do well. Make them even stronger

If you concentrate on the strong points, you can make a greater difference in the world and in the lives of people you interact with. Just think of the contributions you can make.

But also think about how happy you’ll be. It’s harder to be happy when things never seem to be going ok because you just don’t have that one “skill”. Don’t despair.

Go back to your inventory and focus on what you can do well. Spend more time honing those qualities and even teach them to others.

Live happy!

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Daily Gratitude

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Daily Gratitude: It’s funny I should see this quote now. I’m finishing the first draft of my latest book and it involves IFS (internal family systems) and vol state (of course). But what I realized in writing it and during the race is that although I’ve grown quite a bit (actually an amazing amount) in the last 6 years all because of IFS, i have such a long way to go.

I did think even prior to vol state “I wonder how put together you’d be, Terrie, if you were still working where everything isn’t peaches and cream”. I think I have my answer. Not so good. Ha! What a rude awakening.

But it was the awakening I needed. It showed me I will benefit from continuing to work with all my parts. There’s so much history there. Oh well.

The point is that you will never know where you are in life until you’re tested. We’re all tested in one way or another and some of us are tested repeatedly. My theory on the repeat performances is that we just haven’t gotten the message(s) yet. We may think we have but nope. That’s what happened to me in 2016-2017. I had missed or ignored all the “messages” sent by the universe so in its frustration (ha – the universe doesn’t get frustrated) it gave me a big time message dump and after 5 weeks in the hospital I got the message. Well mostly. Long story but poignant because it taught me so much. It was not smooth seas at all and I certainly was not a skillful sailor.

What tough times have you endured? But more importantly what skills did you recognize needs or needed work? Did you “listen”? Did you become stronger? Tell us about it.

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Daily Hotline Message

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Message 320

it’s time  for you tto think both inside  and outside of he box, with or without the wrapping.

No it’s not the success hot line challenge although that’s very important. 

“Oh my, what could be more important than that?”

I looked up what is meant by the Christmas spirit -oh and first, i am talking about all different holidays here, not just the Christian one so please understand that i’m using Christmas so i don’t have to spend 2 1/2 minutes each time to list all of the different observances. 

Back to the meaning –  my AI buddy told me it’s:

1-A sense of generosity

2-Warmth and togetherness

3-Hope and renewal

4-Joy and celebration

5- Reflection and meaning

If you’re crazy enough to be out today, Black Friday, then i bet these 5 things were not at the top of your list. Mine would have been:

-selfishness

-rushing

-taking

-exhaustion

-stress and pressure

-competition 

-success -I beat the other guy to the deal”

oh and a fair amount of complaining too

I know all of you that are doing the success hotline are busy with the challenge but here’s my challenge to you

When i said think inside the box – it was meant for you to continue your reflections that you’ve hopefully been doing over the past week. You owe it to yourself – and to your loved ones to take care of you. This is a time of immense stress and pressure. You have to make your sleep, hydration, nutrition and some sort of exercise a priority, even if it’s just gettiing up and walking around for 1 minute every half hour. You’ve heard Dr. Gilbert talk to us about how stress kills. It does and i am a personal testimony to how it can make you very very sick. But, i think i’ve told you all that story before.  use the next 6 weeks to practice taking care of yourself.

If you do that, THEN you can go about thinking outside the box – doing for other people.  But we should go beyond material gifts. 

I bet you’ll be as surprised as I was to find out that the suicide rate does NOT increase during the holiday season. It does increase slightly around New Year’s Day and that week. 

What does increase and this is where i would like you to pay attention, is in depression symptoms or any other symptoms if someone has a mental heath disorder. 

Depressive symptoms increase for a variety of reasons: financial pressure, grief or missing loved ones, family conflict, social isolation, disrupted routines, and the gap between idealized “happy holidays” imagery and a person’s actual situation.

Surveys of people living with mental illness show that roughly two-thirds report their symptoms get worse around the holidays, and about one-quarter say they get “a lot” worse.

Polls in the general population show that around 40-41% of adults say their stress or emotional strain increases between November and January compared with the rest of the year

We’ll continue with this next week