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Message 319

Happy Thanksgiving

This message is dedicated to all of you who listen to me ramble every day and to those who then come up with coherent thoughts they share.

I have a couple of suggestions for today.

first i encourage all of you to dig deep and be thankful for your own qualities – in other words, your parts. And your body and its organs. Without the miraculous functioning of your body and its systems, you wouldn’t be here. And even if you’re experiencing some health issues, be thankful for what IS working in your body and for your brain.

Find the qualities, the virtues, the feelings you have deep inside. For at least one day, bring them to the surface and give them (and you) space and appreciation. You’ll most likely feel very silly especially if this is the first time you’ve ever done something like this. so you can do it to yourself or even in writing. I just want you to be grateful for your thoughts and feelings. I know for me, being grateful for my feelings is hard because i dont really have any good idea of what they are. But i’m working on it.

I also feel we should all use this day to begin to get ready for the holidays and the new year. How? By letting go of a lot of the garbage that has accumulated this year. The “shoulds”, the “i cant’s”, the “i have tos”, the ‘what would people thinks”, the “it’s my responsibility”s, the “if i don’t do it, who wills”, the “I’m too olds”, the “I’m not smart enoughs”, the “i dont have enough moneys”, and whatever other limiting beliefs and thoughts you have. why not use the next month to do some spring cleaning of your mind.

This wil help you have a clean slate to begin the year? and maybe it will go hand in hand with your post thanksgiving challenge for the success hotline.

When was the last time, if ever, that you did an inventory of your beliefs? Not just, i believe in the republican or democratic party or in capitalism or any of that stuff and while it’s important, what you really want to know is what’s underneath those beliefs. Often time, you’ll be able to uncover shame and guilt feelings that date way back and have formed the thoughts and beliefs that follow.

i know i have a very strong guilt part or feeling or belief from when i was 13 or 14 MONTHS old. I may have told you and i apologize if i did. I had a baby brother who was 6 weeks old when i was 13 or 14 months. my mother put him down for his nap TO FEED ME. and when she went to pick him up again he had died of SIDS (sudden infant death). I doubt they accused me or even thought to but given that my mother must have been emotionally unavailable with difficulty taking care of a 5 1/2 year old and me, I’m sure my soul was riddled with guilt. I won’t go into it more but there are many thoughts and beliefs in me that have come from that experience.

Unearthing such root causes is freeing and can lead to healing of the soul and the body.

Write down what you believe in. Thanksgiving, or any holiday, dinner is a great place to start since there’s usually representatives from various stages of your life that if you let thme, will stimulate a memory that might help you in this.

i’ll close with a humorous quote i saw this week. it said sonething like “Be sure to bring up politics at Thanksgiving. it’s the best way to save money for Christmas”

on that note, i wish everyone a happy thankgiving and send out my gratitude to you all.

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Message 318

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel” Maya Angelou

This message goes out to and is about the birthday boy and growth instigator, Mr Aaron Havens

Why

Because if it weren’t for both of our hotlines I would have never met a man who totally personifies this sentence.

He has a company that does things no one else wants to do. I call it janitorial type stuff but I’m sure there’s a fancy name for it. But the fact that he is willing to take on all those yucky tasks AND do them well should tell you that he wants people to feel good – even if they don’t know that he’s the reason. It’s not a glamorous job and he has to work insane hours but he cares.

He also goes out of his way to make people feel good. He’s done that with me many times. Maybe his history as a pastor helps but you can’t fake this. His concern is genuine.

I imagine each of you has an Aaron in your life. Maybe more than one. From my perspective though, the world can’t handle more than one Aaron.

Anyway back to you. As the holidays have almost arrived and hopefully you have a word of the month, why not pick a person of the month. Or if you want you can make it your person or 2025.

This is the person who has influenced you the most and as a result most likely made your life better. Write about this person. Or at least think about ALL the ways they’ve impacted you and other people. What have you learned from them. What qualities do you wish to emulate? What virtues do they have? What have they done or accomplished? Why did you pick them over everyone else ?

Tell your friends and family about this person.

And finally, why not write them a letter telling them all this? Can you imagine how special their day would be if they got such a letter?

If you like this idea spread it around. And then consider doing a person each month. Who knows this could be the beginning of your own personal mastermind. Napoleon hill reminds us that the people in your mastermind don’t even have to be living. So this person or upcoming people could serve on your personal mastermind without them even knowing it.

The whole point is to focus on other people! Be thankful for the people in your life as well as the things in your life.

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Daily Gratitude: This is such an interesting concept. And one you need to think about quite a bit before you can just embrace it. But then it’s as if you slap yourself on the forehead and shout “of course.”

It gives you a better perspective on some of your pain. If you look at whatever you’re grieving or whatever is hurting you so much, take a deep breath and a few minutes to think about what information is coming from this experience and what it’s going to show you either as you’re enduring it or when it’s over. Think of labor. That pain must be unbearable. But look at the light that’s going to shine in your life after the pain.

Is there some hard time you’re going through right now that you can take a look at and realize the good that’s coming from it or at least how you can help other people (shine a light) when it’s over or even while you’re in the middle of it? You’ll be handing out wisdom and that’s a true gift.

Your light will shine.