Daily Gratitude: When something unexpected pops up in your path, it may be perceived as good or bad, depending on your history, experience and upbringing. We’ve discussed that several times. When something appears to be a problem, try to look at in a different way. This is not that easy because past trauma(s) (of any degree) may have heightened someone’s nervous system so they default to fear and even panic in the presence of the unexpected. If you start with little things and ask yourself this question, it may help train that frightened nervous system into becoming a bit more calm. Instead of asking “whether overcoming it (or succeeding at something) is possible”, just ask “how can i overcome or conquer this; how can i handle this in order to get it to work?” As usual, it’s a matter of perspective. Try to get yourself excited by trying to figure out how to solve some problem. As I said, start with tiny things – the ones that don’t matter if you do or don’t solve them. That will help alleviate a lot of the pressure you feel. When these puzzles are unimportant, this becomes a game and you can have fun working on it, knowing there isn’t something major at stake. After you’ve done these several times, you’ll be ready to move up in the difficulty scale. Do this gradually and it will just become second nature to you.
