Daily Gratitude: Have you ever noticed this? The more you concentrate on the bad in someone or something, the more you see the bad. Your brain is doing what it thinks you want. Since you’ve criticized something in that person, your brain thinks that’s what you want to focus on and it does its usual bang-up job of bringing you what you want, what you “asked for”. Remember that it’s just one big database and it has an excellent filtering system. If you look at something and declare it “bad”, that annotation goes into the database and all such things are labeled the same. So, next time you see that same thing OR something similar, guess what? It is labeled bad. Then your “I want to please you” thinks you’re interested in that sort of thing so it searches for anything and anyone with even a smidgen of similarity so it can point it out to you as bad. Have you ever had or almost had a fight with someone very close to you and then all of a sudden you begin to see qualities in them that you’d swear were never there before? It’s because your helpful brain is now pointing out what it thinks you want to be made aware of – those annoying things that you ignored for decades. If you start looking for the good in someone or something, even if you have to stretch it, you will start to see more things you’ve interpreted (your brain has interpreted) as good. Maybe it’s something as mundane as “well he doesn’t talk with his mouth full”, “his clothes are clean”, “ he didn’t spit”, or “she doesn’t chew gum. You may have to really stretch to find something. Do it and then do it again the next day and continue until that thing’s presence is more tolerable. You’ll see the law of attraction at work if you diligently practice this.