Daily Gratitude: One thing I’m noticing even in my early stages of working with people at the end of life is how many are lonely. But it is also a “dis-ease” I’m seeing in those who have lost someone or something close. I think loneliness has its own pandemic features. We all need to be aware of it, not just in ourselves but in others. It’s a responsibility we, as humans, have. It seems that when people need companionship and visitation most is when they are most abandoned. Being a death doula is so much more than being a doctor. Both are essential. But now if I can just help someone be a little less lonely at the time they need it the most, I will have done a good thing. The key point here, though, is that all of us can help with this issue. It requires no special training, talent or skills (well, listening is a skill) to just be with someone. I became a death doula because I don’t want people to die alone. It’s their own personal foxhole of sorts and I want to hunker down in it with them, hold their hand and let them know that they can leave this world loved. Wouldn’t you want that at your end? Why not pay it forward and help people who are lonely. Be there with them; don’t just tell them you’re there for them. They may never ask. Be proactive and when you spot someone with this affliction, let them know you see it and they aren’t a leper in your eyes. Tell them you’re going to be there with them, not just for them. Be persistent because they are afraid and don’t want to impose or be a burden. Slow your life down so you can tend to them.