Daily Gratitude: Isn’t this so true? When something goes well, we spend little to no time assessing the small details. You can see this in race reports and debriefings. When things don’t go as well as planned or even as we thought it should, we pay much more time trying to analyze why. That magic word, “why”. And this is a good thing. Analysis requires looking at everything that happened because you know that “a” affected “b” and so on down the line. I think that’s a problem with all that’s going on in the world today. People don’t seem to consider the second and third order effects of massive, sweeping changes. That’s why, even though we often make fun of nerds, the data collectors and statistic geeks are the MVPs when an organization wants to make change. And since you are part of the human race organization and head your own department (if you understand internal family systems), you have to know how changing one “part” in your IFS will impact another “part” or group of parts. Even if you’re not into IFS, your organization can be your family, your school, your neighborhood, etc. instead of getting upset maybe we can stop for 90 seconds to let those stress chemicals dissipate and then start seeing if you can figure out what made you upset and what you can do to change it- or change your response. Here’s where “what if” is helpful. Once again think about your home. If something in your foundation wasn’t attended to properly, how secure is it? A few missing shingles on your roof? So what? Well, you know what. Think of that next time you’re too upset or too busy to do a thorough analysis of something.