Daily Gratitude: “Let the beauty of what you love be what you do.”

It’s funny how this quote popped up now. I’m having problems with my training for Vol State. I usually love both walking and Vol State. At this point, I don’t love either. Although… I noticed that things felt better this past week when I started to vary my route.

This tells me I still love walking because i love what I see all around me. And that’s the key to everything joyous.

My last job in the navy and as a civilian for the army involved paperwork and just reading cases. Boring? Nope. I looked at each case as a mystery. There was always so much more to a person than what their paperwork showed. I acted like Jessica Fletcher in “Murder, She Wrote” (for those of you old enough to remember). And it made what I did something I totally enjoyed. Sure there were times it wasn’t “exciting” but when that happened, I still reminded myself that this was someone’s future that I was attending to and it was my responsibility to do the best by that person. I loved it.

When did I retire? When it stopped being fun.

What do you really love? Ask yourself that every day and then make sure you’re doing as much of that in your life as you can.

Daily Gratitude: “The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.”

I’ve written about this before but it’s so important that it bears repeating.

It’s funny. As I’ve been trying to vary my Vol State training route to combat the boredom I feel, I am traveling along the access road of a major loop here in San Antonio. It’s a loop that is constantly backed up for construction and seems to enrage or discourage so many drivers, myself included.

But now I’m able to walk on this access road because, lo and behold, they’ve added a sidewalk. This is the one thing of late that has brought me great joy. It’s only a tiny part of what the construction was all about, but it’s helped me see the value of construction despite the headaches. And next time I’m stuck in traffic with construction, I’ll be able to think of my walks and change my mood from unhappiness to understanding and compassion. I know you’re wondering how i can have compassion for construction but I do, especially the workers.

It’s all about how I’m thinking about the situation. If I stay upset, then it’s not making my day any better and it’s expending a lot more energy. If I think about the good results of what they’re doing then I’ll smile and my mood will be elevated and my energy level will rise as well.

Experiment with this. See if you can do it with little things and then move on to bigger ones.

Daily Gratitude: “We do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking.”

Take a few minutes to contemplate this idea. I imagine it’s a bit foreign to many.

If you subscribe to the idea that nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so (William Shakespeare), then you can see how the same would apply to how you live.

Some people who are very affluent and live in mansions and have people doing everything for them are unhappy. And then you can look at the most poverty stricken countries and areas in our country and these people are usually very happy. They are also usually very communal people and take care of each other. You’ve heard that one of the best ways to get out of a depression is to go give to or take care of other people.

Wanting to care for others is a different way of thinking. It’s putting the needs and welfare of others before your own.

How do you think about your circumstances and situation? I know I’ve changed how I look at problems that arise. And since I’ve changed my way of thinking, the way I live is different. When I have problems now, I don’t “awful-ize” any more or not as much as I used to. I acknowledge my emotions and allow myself to feel them but I don’t make decisions based on them. I wait til the emotions pass (I give them a finite amount of time) and then I look at the situation objectively.

I’m not great at it yet but it’s become more of a habit and I’m seeing the benefits and rewards so that makes me want to continue.

I used to just try to suppress my emotions but I was never successful at it so just like a pressure cooker, all would explode. And then while experiencing the lava flow of emotions, I’d make dumbass decisions because I didn’t use objective data.

My way of life is now more ruled by my thinking and it’s 100% better!

Think about it.