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Daily Gratitude: This is an interesting concept depending on how you look at it. You may wonder why you’d have to fight a battle more than once. That’s a logical question. But, it is only logical when we think we know all the answers. By that I mean that we may think we know what the lesson is (so “why do I have to keep repeating it” you wonder in frustration). In actuality, though, if you’re continuing to face the same issue, you might do better to sit back and say “ok universe…obviously I’ve been misinterpreting what I’m supposed to learn here. This time I’ll be more open so I can really see what it is I’m supposed to learn.” The universe is sneaky sometimes and it may be trying to get you to think about something from a completely different angle than you’ve ever thought about. It also may have given you tons of messages about this same thing and you haven’t listened before so now it’s got that big ole cast iron skillet and it’s going to bang you over the head with it so you get the message finally. This is what happened to me in 2017. I had been so so stubborn for so many years and never listened to any of the messages. So Mama Universe said “ok Terrie…you’re finally going to listen to your mama” and it sent me a message I couldn’t ignore. I’ve written about this before so I won’t bore hog again but needless to say I got the message then. It was painful though and had I just paid more attention in the previous years (and decades), and changed my ways, I could have ignored that battle. Thus, if you find yourself in the same situation over and over again, stop and say “what the heck am I missing”. Then sit back and listen for the answer. At that point and with that message you should be able to discern the truth. If not, go deeper next time.

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Daily Gratitude: This goes along with the clarity through contrast concept. What that says is that you don’t usually know what you want until you find out what you don’t want. When something is taken away, then you realize its value and now you want it in your life. Learn to appreciate everything that makes your life easier – that you just have to turn a faucet and you’ve got water. See how you feel when you need to need to take a shower AND you discover they’ve turned off the water. I bet you start to appreciate running water more after that- until we become complacent again. Spend a lot of time practicing this. Maybe even make a list of everything in one room to start with. Just the fact that you noticed them even if it’s just to put them in a list. As with people, noticing and acknowledging goes a long way to helping make someone feel better and more worthy. This doesn’t take much effort at all.

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Daily Gratitude: I talk about this a lot but it’s never enough it seems. There are some things we need a constant reminder about. It does you no good to say affirmations and have positive and useful mantras IF you’re not acting in a way that’s consistent with those affirmations and mantras. You can say all day long that you’re the luckiest person in the world while at the same time you’re cursing out the traffic in front of and around you. Or repeatedly asking “why me?” Can you see how one negates the other. These affirmations are not only meant to get you to believe in something but they are meant to spur you to action that is consistent with their meaning. You can’t use an affirmation of “I am at a healthy weight” and then spend your evenings snacking. It’s important that you realize this and become aware of what you’re doing but not so you can criticize yourself but so that you can stop one or the other event – preferably stopping the counter action. Maybe when you make an affirmation you could take time to determine what actions are consistent with achieving this goal. It’s also helpful to recognize that all the conflicting thoughts and feelings are parts (of course you knew I’d bring IFS into this). If you understand that, then you can recognize that in many ways, you’re like a school principal trying to herd your students into the auditorium so you can instruct them on the do’s and don’ts of the coming year. Some will abide and others will rebel. You have to get to know those that are rebelling and figure out what’s happened to them to make them be like that. Then you can help them become happier and more in line. It’s a process but even if you don’t know “how to do” IFS, you’ll have come so far just by being self-aware. This is also where journaling comes in. People who are opposed to journaling sometimes don’t realize the value of putting thoughts out on paper – the connection of the brainwaves to the fingers to the pen. I know I can identify my parts (issues) so much better as I write them down. The goal of IFS, just like the goal of making affirmations and plans is to get things into alignment just like your tires. Once you do that, your ride is so much smoother.