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Daily Gratitude: Have you ever experienced this? It’s amazing but if you can calm your thoughts down and stay relaxed, it’s easier to hear what is really going on all around you.

Often we chatter (calling it “talk”) when we’re nervous or anxious. We just want to fill the space around us. God forbid people pay attention to us. Talking can distract them we think. Otherwise they may judge us or not like us and reject us.

Once you learn to be quiet with yourself though, you can be with others without all those worries and concerns. Learning what you’re made of helps you accept yourself and helps you understand why you do certain things. It’s just a matter of becoming familiar with what’s inside of you. Just like everything else, familiarity helps us accept it.

Once we accept ourselves and all our flaws, it’s no longer frightening that others might find out. We can be more calm – and quiet.

Find a way to see inside and be quiet. Meditation helps. Just sitting with yourself is just as good too. Nothing fancy is needed.

Try to see if you can sit in total quiet without distraction for 1-2 minutes. Then build up to 5 minutes and so on. You’re probably laughing but it’s not that easy when you’re not used to it.

You’ll end up feeling really good once you’ve achieved your first 2 minutes of quiet.

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Daily Gratitude: I don’t know much about the cancel culture but I know a lot about complaining.

Complaining destroys everything around you. It’s a contamination. This isn’t to say that you should think all things are perfect. Just consider what good would it do to talk negatively about things that are already less than desirable.

Sometimes just the effort of holding things in helps to transform them. Remember that you really should only concentrate on the things you can control….and what you can control is your thoughts and your responses. Knowing that can give you the strength to alter your responses. Give yourself the challenge of seeing if you can transform that complaint on the tip of your tongue.

Challenge those around you, too.

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Daily Gratitude: Read this again. Can you accept yourself just as you are? Even if you’re pretty squared away, there’s probably a few areas that you aren’t happy with.

But how many of us are that squared away? I’m not. Sure. I’m a lot better than I used to but but there’s still those critical parts in me that can’t put a lid on it and just have to comment…about something that’s “not right.”

Learning IFS (Internal Family Systems) helped me be able to accept myself because I could understand what was happening. Once I realized where all those “bad” things about me were coming from (really young parts that never grow up), and once I learned a few techniques, I began to change, to grow.

Once you accept yourself as you are, you can move the emotions out of the way and objectively view yourself and determine what really does need to change and what, perhaps is just something you couldn’t see well because your emotions were smearing the windshield so to speak. Once you get the windshield wipers clearing that gunk away, you can see (and evaluate) clearly.

Do you have any techniques for removing your emotions? I never did which is why IFS was such a life changer for me. I could love and accept the parts then because I was able to see what had caused them. Every single time my response has been “of course you acted that way. Who wouldn’t have when they were x years old.” Then we (me and the part) could work together not against each other.