Daily Gratitude: It’s easy right now to feel as if you don’t have any power – over anything.
There are certain things you do not have power over right now but there are things you do have power over and most important is the power to choose your thoughts and orchestrate your emotions so you don’t give in to them, losing your cognitive abilities (the part of your brain that shuts down with anger, fear and anxiety).
You still have the power to influence those around you – children, friends, colleagues.
You don’t have to sit home biting your fingernails right now.
Each person is different but it’s key that you examine your life and identify the areas where you still have power.
Never give it up. If you need to, read Viktor Frankl’s “Man’s search for meaning”. He was in a concentration camp during the Holocaust and yet he helped so many others make it through. Perhaps reading it (maybe again) will help you understand your power more.
Daily Gratitude: We live in complicated times. But as this quote shows it is all pretty simple – “what is wanted and the absence of what is wanted. “
it doesn’t say what is wanted and what is not wanted. That’s where I think we get into problems. The absence of what is wanted does not necessarily say you don’t want what you have.
Take some time later today to think on that.
If you can look at it in this way, objectively, it may take some of the negativity out of the subject.
Instead of “I hate this” which is the highest degree of negative vibration, ask yourself what is missing. “I hate being stuck in traffic” really means “I want my life and my vehicle to flow freely, easily and without impediment”.
The first creates strong negative vibrations and it is likely it will do nothing but increase your anxiety and stress and maybe even bring more backed up traffic to your life.
The second phrase or thought, “I want my life and my vehicle to flow freely, easily and without impediment”. Is much more likely to keep you calmer and it sends out to the universe a statement of what you want. Compare it to Amazon. You’re placing your order for a free flowing life. Using the positive intentional statement helps your Amazon driver know where to deliver it and switches your account to Prime.
I can feel a difference in my system just writing these two sentences. Did you notice anything when you read them?
Take wealth – “I’m broke. I can’t afford the things I want”
This is about the absence of wealth not about being broken. I will digress a tiny bit here and talk about the power of words. When you say “I’m broke” your subconscious doesn’t know you mean you don’t have any money.
It thinks something in your body is not functioning.
But it also hears that as an affirmation -I’m broke means I am broken.
So your subconscious will deliver what it thinks you want – more brokenness.
You might be having health issues as well as financial ones. That’s why good internal evaluations look at all aspects of your life.
“My hip is killing me”. Don’t ever say that. You should know what I’m going to say by now. Your subconscious hears that you’re being killed.
It may try to comply and even if you think that’s extreme, when your brain hears something is killlng you, it’s not feeling soothed and calmed.
It feels danger and none of your issues will be resolved when it feels threatened.
Watch your words.
When things are bothering you, your goal should be to determine what you are missing and then express that which you want instead of complaining about the absence.
That is a more reliable way to get you on the path which will help you get what you want – help you develop your goals and then figure out how to get there.
Daily Gratitude: It’s so tempting to ignore this concept right now. It’s easier to fall into the hatred and criticism mode.
But is that right? I guess that’s depends on your definition of “right”.
Is it the way you want to live? That’s an easier question to answer. How does the absence of kindness make you feel? What happens inside you if you’re happy and smiling at people and they just scowl back?
Do you start to feel upset that they didn’t reciprocate? I know that’s how I’ve felt at times. But then I try to wonder what’s going on in there life that might be causing them to not respond “as I’d like them to”. I put that in quotes because I also have to remember that just because I WANT someone to do something or be a certain way doesn’t mean it’s going to happen. Sigh- more letting go needs to happen.
But that is something to think about – why are you smiling at them? For you or for them? Even if it’s for you that’s ok. Doing small acts of kindness increases the release of oxytocin- the so called “love” or “bonding” hormone. And that’s a good thing.
How hard is it to do something kind? Really? What can you do that’s kind? How can you comfort someone? Even just a little bit? How would you feel if someone did something kind for you?
Can you make a list of things you can do that would show kindness to someone? Try it. Then go down the list each day and say “I can do that today”. And maybe pick a “target” person, group or organization to bestow your kindness on.
