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Daily Gratitude: This is one to consider as we head towards the end of the year. Many people find themselves saying (especially as the holiday season begins) “I’ll start doing this or that WHEN the first comes around.” They say something similar throughout the rest of the year too but this is a common time to put things off for awhile.

Does “WHEN” ever come to your life? I would imagine not. It’s like “tomorrow” and “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

Don’t wait for anything. Start now. That’s not to say to ignore everything and jump right into something without evaluating it. It’s saying that evaluating something is an action and it’s not waiting. I have a car that’s 35 years old and has been sitting in my garage for 21 years for reasons that are beyond this post. I’ve thought about and talked about getting rid of it for a long time. I haven’t done diddly squat about actually doing that.

Just this week I decided it was time to take action. I’ve already taken most of the steps needed to “let it go”. That is always something to consider if you find yourself waiting for “when”. If you’re going to start a new diet on the 1st – and not right now – could it be you’re not ready to let go of all those tasty treats you have every morning and evening?

What action can you take today on something you’ve been “waiting” for? Start that today

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One of the most important sentences you’ll ever hear.

“Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.”

Let me say this again

“Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.”

This applies to ALL our problems, including chronic pain (and also any kind of pain).

Why? What are we going to talk about then?

The second question is the easiest to answer – what are we going to talk about?

We should always be talking about either the good things that have happened to us or the good things that are going to happen. That’s a wonderful way to send your desires out into the universe. The universe will then deliver them back.

That statement also begins to answer the first question – why shouldn’t we talk about our problems?

Because we send them out into the universe and then the universe delivers them back to you. The universe doesn’t know the difference between good and bad nor does it know what’s in the past or the present or the future. That’s why your gratitude list can often contain thanks for things you want but don’t yet have. This is what happened with my manifestation of my house that I talked about yesterday.

Regarding chronic pain this same idea applies. If you talk about the pain, the universe thinks you want more pain and it delivers.

But there’s another concept that applies to chronic pain. The more you talk about your pain and how much it hurts and how it’s not fair and why me, the more danger your brain thinks you’re in. When your brain thinks there’s danger, it stays in the fight or flight, hypervigilant mode and those established pain circuits continue to fire. There’s no chance to create a sense of safety and new circuits.

You’ve heard me talk many times about the importance of conveying safety to your brain in order to calm the nervous system. There’s little chance of improvement if that doesn’t occur.

Every time you talk about your pain or disability, your brain goes on high alert and there’s just the opposite of safety then.

Of course you have to answer your medical providers’ questions but that’s it. Any “support groups” should ne meticulously checked to see how much the members talk about the pain and its interference with their lives. They are really not support. It would be neat if someone created support groups that focused on getting people to focus on something good, no matter how little.

This morning I was feeling a bit down as I was driving to an appointment and then I actually said out loud “what are you doing, Terrie? Everything is terrific. You have more than you need and there’s such beauty in your life. Why don’t you think about that.” So I did and it worked. I ended up having a diamond day and I hope you do too

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Daily Gratitude: I would bet that everyone reading this is shaking their head in agreement with this statement.

It exemplifies the need for letting go of so much. After all, your needs and desires could be completely different tomorrow (or even this afternoon) so why spend so much time “planning” for tomorrow or next year?

This is not to say you should just live your life moment by moment. Of course you should have goals and plans. What I am saying, though, is to set those goals and outline a plan of action in order to reach them. BUT then let go. Your plan should be detailed enough that you have daily things to do to accomplish the next section of that plan. That’s all you need to work on right now. AND if something goes awry with how that’s all playing out today, then so be it. You can pick up where you left off whenever that might be.

Don’t get so hung up on your to-do list. Take a fun moment and search the App Store for “to do list” apps and you’ll be amazed at how many there are. What adds to that amazement for me is how complex they all want to make a simple task. Add this. Add that. Make sure it’s AI something or other (“AI driven” etc. it’s a new buzz word or buzz phrase like “trauma informed” – not to deviate too much but I would bet that all of us are “trauma informed”. Anyway back to the regularly scheduled programming unless it’s censored).

Is your life like some of these apps? Complex and confusing. The to do items are in there somewhere….if only you could find them?

What are you missing in life as you zoom by to do this or that? I see this all the time on my walks. Sunday i was shocked. I do this certain route on the weekends and this week there was an empty lot (well it had a lot of construction equipment) where there was a house last week. What the heck? Are you noticing things changing around you all the time? We’ve talked before about how it doesn’t take all that long before change becomes the “norm” and we forget there was a change. Look at your kids and how they grow “before you know it”

Enjoy what the universe brings your way.