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Daily Gratitude: You can choose to be happy. You don’t have to keep searching for it.

What doesn’t work is the “I’ll be happy when x, y, or z happens (you can fill in what your x,y, or z is).

Even if getting what you want gives you some temporary happiness, it won’t last. And soon you’ll realize that it’s a feeling of success, not real happiness. There’s nothing wrong with success but it will leads to the desire for more success and thus the roller coaster ride begins.

“I’ll be happy when I lose 20 pounds”. What if you lose 18 pounds? Will that keep you from being happy?

“I’ll be happy when I get a raise.” When you get the raise how will that make you happy? Inevitably we spend more money when we make more money. Then what.

And so on. Not everyone behaves like my examples, but if the loss of some weight is all it takes to make someone happy, what does that say about your happiness?

I say again you can choose to be happy right now, no matter what you weigh or what your salary is.

Happiness is it elusive if you rely on external factors.

I was never happy and even more sad is that I wasn’t even searching because I figured things were as “good” as they were going to get and I had “no chance.”

But in the last 5 years happiness has shown up in my life in more ways than I could ever imagine. And that’s all from my work with IFS (internal family systems).

I had stopped looking for happiness and I started looking within (with IFS). And look what showed up. I am finally happy after 77 years

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Beyond the gift of material things

Daily Gratitude: There isn’t much more of an important concept than this.

We focus way too much on material things and although those types of gifts are appreciated, most people who are suffering in some way really appreciate it when you take the time to spend with them inquiring how they really are and letting them talk.

Of course it’s also important to ask them if they are “up” for company. Sometimes people in pain are way too exhausted to be able to give quality time no matter how good your intention. Asking them and abiding by their wishes will also convey you really do care about them and that will mean the world to most people.

Chronic pain, whether physical pain or emotional, creates the greatest feelings of loneliness. It’s worse when others stay away and treat them as if that person has leprosy.

There’s a fine line to walk here but if you’re considerate and caring, it won’t be that difficult and what’s more important is that they know they aren’t alone.

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Daily Gratitude: I agree with this completely. It’s like training for races – the training is what’s the most fun for me. It’s learning about my body and what I already “know” and what I still need to learn. Practicing on hills is a form of learning.

Then it’s even more fun to put that learning process (training) to work during the actual race. And if treated right, the race creates more learning and more fun.

Learning is exciting. When you come across something new, don’t you feel excited? Don’t you want to keep seeing what’s new? Can you feel the enthusiasm and energy building?

Often times taking up something new is a wonderful way to get you out of the doldrums and feeling of boredom in a life.

In your spare time think of some things you’d like to learn but in the past might not have had the time. Can you make some time for it now?