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Message 347- Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas everyone. This will be a very loose message since most people are doing other things today.

Snoopy said:
“Last year, this day, things were so different.
Next year, this day, things will have again changed.
Where you are today is your latest spot, not the final one. You have no idea how magical the universe is.”

Although today is a day of celebration for many, the important thing is to realize that you are here today no matter where that “here” is.

Enjoy life, enjoy people, enjoy everything. You never know what the next hours or days will bring.

Think back over all your Christmases and see what’s happened in all those years.

This is the very first year that I wish I wasn’t traveling and actually wished I had a place to go. Don’t feel sorry for me because that’s cause for celebration. I don’t know why this has happened although I suspect it is from all the IFS work I’ve done.

I always wanted to avoid Christmas because it was never a very happy holiday. Alcohol will do that to a family. I never felt I belonged on the one day of the year a child should feel totally loved and wanted.

It’s taken me all these years to get to this point and I’m grateful to have gotten to this point. As they say better late than never.

And I just have to tell you about the two unexpected Christmas gifts I got. The universe takes such good care of me.

The first made me as excited as a kid getting her first bike. I plugged my phone in the usb port of my car two days ago and lo and behold CarPlay connected and worked. I have been unable to get it working for the entire year and a half I’ve had the car. But all of a sudden it works. The only thing I can figure is that the other battery case I had might Have obstructed it being read. I switched cases and this is the first time I’ve plugged it in since the switch.

And then I had a box of power bars left over from some race and as I was getting everything ready for my trip I heard something rattling around in the box. Out fell a necklace I’ve been looking for for over 6 months.

What more could a girl ask for?

Have a wonderful day. I’m on the road now and my race starts Sunday morning. I’ll tell you more about it as it gets closer.

Merry diamond Christmas

Daily Hotline Message

message 346

Is it really better to give than to receive?

Dr. Gilbert talks about this but is it true that it’s better to give than to receive?

Why don’t you try it this Christmas season….but don’t make it about Christmas only.

So many people are hurting all year round. Can you make a deal with yourself to give to someone or some cause at least once a month for the coming year. That’s only 12 times you have to go out of your way to help someone. you can do it anonymously if you want.

What does it feel like? I will tell you that it feels like nothing you’ve ever experienced before. A friend of mine posted a GoFundMe link for her nephew who had lost everything in a fire. Everything. Take a moment right now. Close your eyes. and think of what your life would look like if that were you. What is “everything” for you. Sure, things like clothes and appliances can be replaced fairly easily (if people help you out) but what are those things you have that cannot be replaced? What would you do? How would you feel? I bet it would feel awfully isolated.

Then imagine how you’d feel if someone came up to you and said “come with me. you can stay at my house until you get some stuff straightened out.”

What a relief. What pressure would be lifted. Just from a simple gesture. Or maybe someone said “i can help you with your meals during this transition time. My religious group will be happy to help take some of the responsibility off your shoulders.”

Just thinking about all you have to do to start again is overwhelming. sure, maybe you’re a resilient one who knows you can overcome anything. But that doesn’t eliminate the immense weight of it all happening at once. There’s no time even to figure out step by step. Unless you have people who will help.

I was able to help this young man and his family with a donation. They don’t live near so that’s all i was able to do from afar. But, the emotions i had doing that were the best I’ve ever had.

Can you go even beyond the once a month idea and so something, some little thing every single day in 2026 – and yes it’s ok if you miss days, this isn’t a streak thing. it’s to get your mind outside of your own self and your own world, trying to glimpse inside of another’s. Smile at someone, hold a door open, let someone turn in front of you, buy someone’s coffee behind you, send an email or a note to an old friend or acquaintance asking how they are. I have another friend who wrote me the other day telling me he’s developed a sarcoma in his thigh. This is a runner and a man who has the best sense of humor you could imagine. You’d never know he had this horrible cancer. Just as I’ve talked so much about people with the invisible disability – chronic pain, you may never know how much they are hurting – physically and emotionally. They feel alone and abandoned. a little note or text or even a call may make all the difference in the world.

how often can you be Santa in the new year?

Daily Gratitude

Daily Gratitude: This is what the Christmas spirit is all about. And every other day of the year too.

All you need to do is what some of the heart wrenching commercials to know the feeling. Don’t take this the wrong way because I love dogs as much as I love people but the two “ads” that always get to me are the ones for St Jude’s and the animal rescue ads.

To see the happy faces of little children who can laugh and love despite the horrific things happening to them and their bodies always brings tears to my eyes. No one should Have to endure that let alone a child.

And then there’s little helpless animals that have been neglected, abused or abandoned. No one has the right to be mean and hateful to another living creature. We can’t forget that.

What are you feeling your heart this week as you celebrate Christmas if you do? Are you thinking beyond yourself and your family?

Who can you help today?

I rarely ask for anyone to donate to anything. I’m not asking now but if you feel inclined it would be most appreciated…..Beverly is one of the women who stimulated my interest in becoming a death doula. She is a key member of the home for the dying that I was volunteering at (abode).

Her nephew just lost EVERYTHING in a fire. Can you take a minute during your celebration today and think of what that would look like (and feel like) if you lost everything. How alone and abandoned would you feel. To say nothing of the immense sensation of overwhelm.

If you feel inclined you can reach out and do something for this young man and his family. If you can’t donate, at least remember him as we head toward a new year. He will really be having a new year.

https://gofund.me/c59487b5b