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    Terrie Wurzbacher

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    Message 344

    “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

    This is the time of year when all you hear about is the new goals people have for the upcoming year. I get pretty annoyed with all that sometimes. I’m not a New Year’s resolution type of person. But I do believe in the value of reflection. That’s why i seem to beat it to death here.

    It’s mostly because I don’t think you can really be successful in the future without knowing what went well and what didn’t in your past endeavors.

    I also firmly believe in resets. You don’t even have to come up with something new. Just ask yourself if you’re happy with how things are now. If the answer is yes, follow it up with are you happy in all aspects of your life. Maybe a reset in one small area will jumpstart the rest of your life and create changes that you didn’t Even know you could use.

    Resets often are small. They may require just changing one thing. I’ll give you a reset example – one that has nothing to do with grand goals but it was a perfect example that popped up as soon as I decided to do today’s lesson on resets.

    I have two mattresses for my van. One is about 6-8 inches wider than the other. It’s Al’s the more comfortable one. Since this race is going to be 6 days I knew I needed to use the more comfortable mattress so switched them out yesterday

    But as I continued to load gear into the van I knew it was too wide. It didn’t take me long before I decided to put the smaller one back in. I wasn’t upset or frustrated as I’ve been in the past. It was just going with what was better.

    That acceptance was different for me and I welcomed it even though I was surprised.

    As I was looking for something else in the house my eyes landed on my thick yoga mat. This was not a given as it was buried under a bunch of stuff. But there it is was calling to me.

    I found my measuring tape and it’s the exact size of the smaller mattress so I ended up putting the yoga mat under the mattress. That should give me more cushioning.

    So what happened here? During the whole process I used logical thinking unclouded by emotion. Each step was feelings free. I emphasize that because it’s so out of character for me.

    As a result my thinking and therefore my mind was uncluttered and there was space for the universe to hand me a solution. In the past there would have been no space for this new idea to come in. Plus I was able to embrace this as a unique answer. It was no longer black and white – one mattress over the other. New ideas were able to bounce around in my head.

    This reset is simply a reflection of the reset that has occurred in my mind over the past 6 months. And you all are responsible for much of that reset. Not only did you help me reset during vol state but all your thoughts and ideas on my messages have opened so many new doors that I’d never seen before. I thank all of you and I hope you will consider a reset.

    Let me leave you with two quotes. One is the one I led off with. Here they are

    1. “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

    And the other ie

    “Self-transformation commences with a period of self-questioning… growing personal awareness leads to transformation in how a person lives.” – Idowu Koyenikan

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    Daily Gratitude: This follows on nicely to the quote about the 16 inches between your brain and your heart.

    It’s a wise saying that is worthy of our attention. Often you hear people say they can’t escape from their thoughts, that they feel a prisoner in their heads.

    Just as often, though, there are people who are driven by their heart whether you consider that to mean being guided by emotions in general or by love specifically.

    I personally think this quote is aimed toward people like myself who don’t ever acknowledge their heart, their emotions. I learned long ago that it wasn’t safe to express them and worse yet, it wasn’t safe to have emotions. Here we see the truth behind mind-body medicine. You cannot escape these emotions (your heart). They will manifest some way, some how. And if you don’t acknowledge them , they will make themselves known in and through your body. 2017 proved that to me. My body expressed all that had been stored up for decades and it wasn’t pretty.

    If you’re like me, you have to make a conscious effort to recognize your emotions at least. Then it’s a good idea to learn how to cultivate them. Once the door is open, it becomes easier – just like everything else in life. It’s all about taking step after step. Perhaps that’s why this year’s vol state was even more meaningful. It was just that – taking step after step. And my my more experienced parts tried to escape my heart by numbing me but fortunately there were other parts that stood up and decided to make themselves known. It’s a process and I’m only now, as I write my book, understanding all that happened.

    Yet if I’d just ignored the experience, I would have missed so much and just stuffed all those emotions away in the lockbox of my heart.

    Listen to your heart. What is it telling you?

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    message 343

    “At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
    Charlie Brown

    Good ole Charlie Brown for bringing all my experiences of the second half of 2025 into a refocused perspective.

    Another great way of saying control the controllables. If you look all around you, you’ll find so many different ways to express the same thing.

    I know I probably talk too much about myself and what happens a to me and i mentioned most of these last week or maybe this Week but this discussion is a more nuanced perspective. I hope that’s
    ok.

    So what did I have to let go of?

    For starters I had hoped I would do great (for me) at vol state. Well as you all know, that didn’t happen. But I learned to accept help that was offered. I wasn’t at the point yet, where i could ask for it but I was able to accept it from several sources. Dr Gilbert, all of you and my guardian angel by proxy- a man named Ray k.

    As a result of letting go of those expectations I discovered more about myself than ever via my parts and IFS and writing my book

    I thought “ok that’s a fine little bump. Now let’s get back to normal.”

    Ha ha. Letting go of the expectation that I could finally finish this nemesis- the 112 mile race over Labor Day. Bang. There went my clavicle.

    But instead of trying to prove how strong I was I finally did ask for help and was honored by my friend sacrificing 3 days to rescue me.

    Then I had to put all other expectations on hold – doing more podcasts and most of all finishing up my book

    Living in the present I took Ramona’s advice and used a speech to text app to get out some thoughts for my book. And I learned a lot about patience and learning something new. I also learned more about the value of gratitude because I knew there are many people out there that would give anything to “just” have a fractured clavicle.

    This was followed by a medical procedure that kept me from eating for 2 1/2 weeks. That really went against all expectations. But it also reset some of my food and appetite centers in a way I don’t understand yet.

    That should have been it for the not living up to expectations but no. I was planning to use the upcoming race as good kick off training for 2026 vol state. Then I was out of commission for 7-8 days. There went that expectation. So living in the present on that is the fact I will go to have fun and evaluate what my body can do. And use that as kick off training. It’s just a different form but it will be excellent.

    I am proud that I’ve been able to respond to each of these things and not react. I’m also happy that I had these experiences and could learn from them and realize that things always do pass if we can sit back and wait for that to happen.

    What have you learned from 2025?