Daily Gratitude: I’ve discovered something magical. However, it’s also very strange. In working with the folks who are making their transition, I’m finding myself mesmerized by one special thing about each of them. One man’s simple phrase (“why me?”) created surprise and passion in me and ensured that I will never forget him. Why? Because as I’ve written, his “why me” was not the “poor me” that you generally expect but the “why do I deserve all these blessings?” Another man’s smile has me in love with him in a way I’ve never felt before. It’s as if that smile is saying “you are a part of me and i, of you”. That is the greatest gift of communion that anyone could ever receive or ask for. And now there’s a woman who looks so deeply into my eyes that I feel as if I’m back in New York City in the subway, staring down the darkened tracks. I can see the light of the train coming my way, inviting me to peer more deeply into what’s there in the darkness. How can you refuse such an invitation? I can’t. And I feel honored that each of these people is sharing something very special with me at the end of their lives. We often tend to look at the external effects of dying – the immense weight loss and loss of strength and stamina. But these are just external “clothes” and if we only see and focus on that, we’ll miss so much. The essence of that person is still with us to be shared with the world. Instead of the losses, we need to take a moment to cherish the gains that come with death. There is a freedom of sorts and if you let them, these people still have so much to give. Rejoice and receive what they are offering.
