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One of the most important sentences you’ll ever hear.

“Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.”

Let me say this again

“Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.”

This applies to ALL our problems, including chronic pain (and also any kind of pain).

Why? What are we going to talk about then?

The second question is the easiest to answer – what are we going to talk about?

We should always be talking about either the good things that have happened to us or the good things that are going to happen. That’s a wonderful way to send your desires out into the universe. The universe will then deliver them back.

That statement also begins to answer the first question – why shouldn’t we talk about our problems?

Because we send them out into the universe and then the universe delivers them back to you. The universe doesn’t know the difference between good and bad nor does it know what’s in the past or the present or the future. That’s why your gratitude list can often contain thanks for things you want but don’t yet have. This is what happened with my manifestation of my house that I talked about yesterday.

Regarding chronic pain this same idea applies. If you talk about the pain, the universe thinks you want more pain and it delivers.

But there’s another concept that applies to chronic pain. The more you talk about your pain and how much it hurts and how it’s not fair and why me, the more danger your brain thinks you’re in. When your brain thinks there’s danger, it stays in the fight or flight, hypervigilant mode and those established pain circuits continue to fire. There’s no chance to create a sense of safety and new circuits.

You’ve heard me talk many times about the importance of conveying safety to your brain in order to calm the nervous system. There’s little chance of improvement if that doesn’t occur.

Every time you talk about your pain or disability, your brain goes on high alert and there’s just the opposite of safety then.

Of course you have to answer your medical providers’ questions but that’s it. Any “support groups” should ne meticulously checked to see how much the members talk about the pain and its interference with their lives. They are really not support. It would be neat if someone created support groups that focused on getting people to focus on something good, no matter how little.

This morning I was feeling a bit down as I was driving to an appointment and then I actually said out loud “what are you doing, Terrie? Everything is terrific. You have more than you need and there’s such beauty in your life. Why don’t you think about that.” So I did and it worked. I ended up having a diamond day and I hope you do too