I hope that you copy this quote and put it somewhere that’s easily accessible. It would be nice even if you read it every day. All too often we’re feeling despair when something isn’t going the way we want it to. We have blinders on and can’t see anything but the discouraging event and “possible” consequences. I put possible in quotes because they are really imagined consequences because they haven’t happened yet. Because of the blinders, we don’t look around the room (at the rest of our life) to see the good things that are there right in front of us – if we took the blinders off. Nothing is all bad. Here’s what I could have focused on after my recent race in Tennessee which ended up with a fractured clavicle: I had to stop the race so I didn’t finish it. I am a failure for not finishing. I am too old or I wouldn’t have tripped on that asphalt lip. I shouldn’t ever do any races again. I had to give in and go to an ER (gasp). I can’t do anything with my right arm for at least 6 weeks. I can’t continue writing my book or doing my podcast interviews. And on and on. So, what was hiding in the corners beyond where I could see if I kept the blinders on? The love and concern other people showed me. The true friendship of someone who gave up 3-4 days of his life to come drive me home. The fun I am having conquering doing everything with my left arm. The rest I’m getting since I can’t do much else. Actually enjoying watching this healing process which is fascinating. Reading more since I have more time. I think that these things that crept in through the door I left open far outweigh the “bad” things I could only see if I kept my blinders on. I’m sure you have similar examples in your life IF you’d simply look for the breadcrumbs to the door you left open. Why don’t you try to follow the clues and let us know.