Flexibility has never been my strong point, either physically or in general. I am much more flexible in life now after learning about my parts (through IFS – Internal Family Systems).

So much of being inflexible is because of fear and lack of faith. We fear loss of control. And what’s most ironic and makes us really laugh is when we realize we actually have no control over anything. There is, perhaps, the appearance of control and that provides comfort. But it’s an illusion.

Just as the quote says, the river obeys the land. The land is hard, non-moving. It’s an obstacle, an obstruction. The river knows that if it wants to get to its ultimate goal, or even to just keep flowing if it doesn’t know its ultimate goal, it has to find a way around the rocks and obstructions. So it just flows and lets the land take it where it’s allowed.

Why do we think we have more power, more say than the river. That’s an illusion too. We’ll reach our destination if we let things happen and not fight so much. The universe (or whatever power you believe in) has a plan for you. It’s a lot stronger than you are. So who do you think is going to “win” in the long run?

Why not make it easier and just go with the flow. Stop resisting everything that happens in your life. Your inner spirit knows what is the correct path, the right riverbed to follow. Allow that spirit to guide you.

This happened with my book recently. I tonight I was done. I made a “mistake” and asked for input. The input pointed out things that were deficient. More editing was needed.

The old me would have had a tizzy and fought it, or given up or who knows what I would have done. The current me, though, acknowledged my disappointment and then said “ok let’s get to work”.

I’m so glad this happened. I’ve seen so much as i floated down the new path the river found by obeying the land. Definitely a lesson learned.