But it really is just fear. If we thought we could handle anything (either by ourselves or with help), then we’d be focusing on how to get it done, not being afraid of what will happen if we don’t do it; what other people will think; and of course, what other people will say.

It’s interesting to spend some time examining why care so much about other people. Self help gurus always say not to let that happen but you need to know how to keep those thoughts out of your head.

I think the best way is to fully belief in what you can do and what you feel is right. If you don’t have total belief, then instead of looking at others, go inside and see what’s missing? Is it a concept you had hammered into your head when you were young and maybe now you’re not so sure. Maybe it’s like a scab that’s coming off. You might find raw skin underneath which could mean you should look more closely at the issue. Or there could be fresh new skin there waiting for you to embrace it (a new belief).

Even if you’re not positive you can do something, if you have the desire and the passion to try it, then the heck with others. Babies fall all the time and we laugh at them. But they get right back up because they just hear fun (or funny) sounds. They don’t hear ridicule like we do later in life. So they just keep trying to walk or stand up.

Next time you feel yourself beginning to worry, ask yourself what’s really going on. Ask “why” over and over.