Often we chatter (calling it “talk”) when we’re nervous or anxious. We just want to fill the space around us. God forbid people pay attention to us. Talking can distract them we think. Otherwise they may judge us or not like us and reject us.

Once you learn to be quiet with yourself though, you can be with others without all those worries and concerns. Learning what you’re made of helps you accept yourself and helps you understand why you do certain things. It’s just a matter of becoming familiar with what’s inside of you. Just like everything else, familiarity helps us accept it.

Once we accept ourselves and all our flaws, it’s no longer frightening that others might find out. We can be more calm – and quiet.

Find a way to see inside and be quiet. Meditation helps. Just sitting with yourself is just as good too. Nothing fancy is needed.

Try to see if you can sit in total quiet without distraction for 1-2 minutes. Then build up to 5 minutes and so on. You’re probably laughing but it’s not that easy when you’re not used to it.

You’ll end up feeling really good once you’ve achieved your first 2 minutes of quiet.