But how many of us are that squared away? I’m not. Sure. I’m a lot better than I used to but but there’s still those critical parts in me that can’t put a lid on it and just have to comment…about something that’s “not right.”

Learning IFS (Internal Family Systems) helped me be able to accept myself because I could understand what was happening. Once I realized where all those “bad” things about me were coming from (really young parts that never grow up), and once I learned a few techniques, I began to change, to grow.

Once you accept yourself as you are, you can move the emotions out of the way and objectively view yourself and determine what really does need to change and what, perhaps is just something you couldn’t see well because your emotions were smearing the windshield so to speak. Once you get the windshield wipers clearing that gunk away, you can see (and evaluate) clearly.

Do you have any techniques for removing your emotions? I never did which is why IFS was such a life changer for me. I could love and accept the parts then because I was able to see what had caused them. Every single time my response has been “of course you acted that way. Who wouldn’t have when they were x years old.” Then we (me and the part) could work together not against each other.