That’s where IFS comes in. It is truly an entire family system within you. There’s all sorts of typical family interactions as well – spats, sulking, rejoicing, taking care of one another, love, anger, sadness, grief, you name it.

We all acknowledge that we have memories so why can’t we accept that we have “tiny personalities” within that may even be containers for most of those memories.

In the past week alone I’ve made major changes in my perspective on people and ideas and things in my life. I’m 77 years old so this is amazing that I can up thoughts and beliefs I’ve held for so long. But it works.

Every time you say “a part of me….”, you are acknowledging one of those tiny personalities.

This inside family is where most of your battles are fought. My parts were frequently at “war” with one another, just like two toddlers or worse yet, two teenagers. They both want the same thing. In this teenage example they most likely want autonomy just as physical teens do. They just have different ways of getting what they want.

The battles within are the hardest fought. Learn more about your parts and you’ll learn that you are not stuck in particular beliefs or thought patterns. You can change!

That is the most freeing experience in your life.