Happy Valentine’s day!

I had something else to write for today but that can wait til tomorrow. Today we should be inquisitive and don our Sherlock Holmes hats. Let us take today and see what there is in everyone we come across and everyone we know that we can love. This won’t be easy but I think it will be illuminating.

I’m in a program for chronic pain and one of the things they are teaching is how to connect with our emotions through writing “unsent letters”. You find someone (or something) that has caused you stress and you write them a letter expressing all your anger, guilt, sadness etc.. Just letting your emotions out finally. Then you can also write a letter to yourself about what you learned.

I did my second one last night and I chose this person who “sent me over the edge” in 2016-2017. It was because of her that I ended up in the hospital for that long a period of time – this is what I wrote about the other day. So anyway, I wrote some last night but I didn’t feel as if I got all the anger out that I had. I felt that it was incomplete. So this morning I started writing again. And wow what I saw was a) not fun to see but b) was the most important thing I could have realized. This person mirrored my survival instinct and behavior completely. When I wrote that something was done, I stopped and saw that there had been a point in my life where I had done the same. And on it went. Each time I wrote about something that really made me mad, the kodak moment came where I saw myself acting in the same way.

The Universe put this person directly in my way so that I had to stand in front of the mirror and look at myself. All the anger I held immediately dissipated when that happened. I have done this with some of my illnesses like epilepsy and seen the good that came out of having that. I now know to do the same for my migraines and my GI issues. That will be enlightening I’m sure.

The release of all that anger made it worthwhile many times over. It was hard to write this post and admit to you all that what I saw in this person who had been a thorn in my side for a few years was really just seeing what I had been in my life as well. Talk about opening your eyes. But I no longer have any anger toward this person. They were doing what they needed to do to survive just as I have.

Are you willing to try the unsent letters or maybe just make a list of the people who irritate you and jot down why or how they irritate you? Then take a look at them and that/those irritating characteristics and see if they reflect any of your own?
Can you find something in them that you like or admire? Just one thing?
Make that today’s goal – find something in everyone that bothers you and embrace that one thing, no matter how tiny it is.

That is what Valentine’s Day should be all about – let’s get out of ourselves and our high and mighty spirit and look in the mirror of those the Universe has placed in our path and see what is staring back at us. Then hug it and love it because that will help you love yourself