Pretty darn long when you’re in the middle of it!

Did you know that the adrenaline rush you get when you’re anxious, scared, angry or whatever hyped up emotion you’re feeling only lasts 90 seconds?

If you can keep that in mind and realize that although 90 seconds feels like an eternity it isn’t, you can make it through any angry, anxious or scary moment you encounter.

What makes it last longer is our continued reaction/response to that initial spurt of chemicals. And it helps to realize that it’s only chemicals that are making you feel this way – it is NOT the other person or the situation.

Now I’m not saying ‘don’t react’. That would be stupid and inhuman of me. But what I am saying is that if you can keep a clear part of your mind constantly repeating “it’s only 90 seconds” and focusing on that and your deep breathing, you stand a better chance of making it through the initial response without continuing to perpetuate the feelings and making it last and last and last.

While you’re in a calm mood – perhaps after reading this post – try to figure out somethng you can focus on for 90 seconds that will help you get through the chemical reaction. Create an affimation or mantra or focus on a spot or a great memory. Just find somethng that will take your attention away from the situation for those 90 seconds. Of course, if you are in real danger, this is not a method you should use., But so often our responses which are danger responses are not to real danger but to everyday events, especially with other people.

Also remember that most of the time you are responding NOT to the person in front of you but to something that happened in your past. If you can remember that, then you’re better off to start with.

Today’s gratitudes:
I am grateful I got up early so I can get started – today is a busy day

I am grateful for all the technology that makes being at home so much more enjoyable

I am grateful for kindle books